The Hidden Power in Grief
Why Loss Can Help You Overcome The Fear Of Failing While Going For The Life You Want
It's inevitable in life that either someone will lose you or you will lose someone. Period. No matter your race, ethnic background, gender, social status, or all the other labels we wear every day, you have entered this world and someday are going to leave it. We can often take life for granted in the distracting fast-paced world we are currently living in.
Did you know that as of April 13, 2024, over 7 million lives have been lost due to the COVID-19 pandemic? These were not just numbers but brothers, sisters, parents, friends, and neighbors. And yet we were expected to go on with life as normal despite having witnessed a hard time in history. We have yet to understand the true extent of how the pandemic altered our world. We’ve lost time, missed graduations, and faced countless other hardships, and yet we don't discuss this. Life, as we once knew it, has forever changed. However, despite all of this, the pandemic has taught us one thing. It has shown us that life is unpredictable and that the “live to work” mindset may not be the ultimate path to fulfillment. People have started to wake up. We all had a collective loss in some way during the pandemic and those who have experienced this can understand that there is a clear realization that living an unfulfilling life is not worth it.
This is a reminder that there’s more to life than you’ve been told, and finding what truly matters to you is an essential part of your journey toward holistic well-being and living your best life.
Society has taught us that money is one of the most valuable resources in the world when in reality it's time. Lost money can always come back, lost time does not. If you have lost someone and are currently reading this, you know good and well how you wish you could get back the time you have lost. You regret not having done more, but in reality, the only moment you have is now. This is why the present moment is so valuable.
The thing about grief and loss ( which can be many things) is that it is never linear and looks completely different for everyone. You would think that discussing grief would be more common in the Western world because EVERY single person will either grieve or be grieved. So when losing someone unexpectedly and not having the resources/ environment around to help with this confusing human emotion can be incredibly difficult to navigate.
In this post, Internal wants to help you see grief in a different light. Hopefully, by reading this post you can take action to overcome the fear of getting exactly what you want out of life. Because, if it's one thing, we all have a limited time clock on this Earth and never know when it will stop ticking.
This is why it's important to live every day as if it were your last and spend time doing things that bring you joy around people that add value. Life is too short to not be happy, grateful, and fulfilling. We've been falsely taught what should matter in life over what matters. When it comes to taking that step toward achieving your goals, you probably think you have all the time in the world because you're not too old yet.
But remember not everyone dies of old age.
IN TODAY’S GUIDE, YOU’LL LEARN:
Hidden power in grief
How you can use grief as fuel
How to live more intentional and present in this fast world
Mourning Birth and Celebrating Death
Did you know in many other countries, loved ones mourn birth and celebrate death?
This is because, in some cultures, there's a deep understanding of the cyclical nature of life and the belief that death is not an end, but a transition. Death is seen as a release from the physical body and a return to the spiritual realm, where the soul can continue its journey free from earthly struggles, or free from the “meat suit” as some would call it.
Celebrating death honors the life that was lived and acknowledges the soul’s progression to a higher state of existence. Mourning birth, on the other hand, reflects the awareness of the challenges and sufferings that the new soul will face in the 3D world.
Because we have so many things trying to grab our attention all at once it's easy to overlook some of the most simple principles in life. Even though some would argue that the West is more technologically advanced and superior than some indigenous tribes, there are still A LOT of things we can learn from them, more than you realize.
The perspective of celebrating death can offer comfort when we face our losses. In the West, we often approach death with somber funerals, wearing black, and a heavy atmosphere of mourning. While it's natural to grieve, we might consider shifting our focus to celebrating the life that was lived rather than solely mourning what's no longer here. This doesn't mean that death should be a party, but rather a heartfelt acknowledgment of the joy, love, and memories that person brought into our lives.
This perspective challenges us to reconsider our understanding of life and death, encouraging us to see death as a natural and meaningful part of our journey. By adopting a more holistic view of these life events, we can begin to process grief in a way that feels less final and more like a continuation of love and connection.
Grief Is Complex
Grief is a profound and complex emotion that is never the same for anyone. It is an intense, personal experience shaped by our relationships, beliefs, and the circumstances of loss. Some describe it as a wave—sometimes gentle, sometimes overwhelming, and always unpredictable. The complexity of grief lies in its nature; it is not a single emotion but a collection of feelings that can include sadness, anger, guilt, and even relief. Each person’s grief journey is unique, making it difficult to predict or control.
In Western society, we often lack the tools and understanding to navigate grief properly. We are frequently misinformed, with common misconceptions suggesting that grief should be a linear process or that it’s something to be quickly overcome. This misunderstanding can lead to feelings of isolation or inadequacy, as we may feel pressured to “move on” before we are ready. In reality, grief is a process that unfolds over time, and it’s okay to take the time you need to heal.
If you’ve experienced loss, you know that life is never the same afterward. There’s a distinct difference between who you were before the loss and who you are now. Grief, while incredibly complex and uncomfortable, can also be powerful in how you view how precious life is. This forces you to confront the reality that time is the most valuable asset you have—finite and irreplaceable. Through grief, you come to understand that you can’t predict how much time you or your loved ones have on this earth, which makes the fear of going after what you want less scary because you know your time on Earth is limited anyway.
Griefs Hidden Power
Grief shows you that change is not just possible—it's inevitable. The pain of losing someone can become the very catalyst for overcoming the fear of failure, pushing you to live authentically, pursue your dreams, and create a life that speaks to your soul. But this change starts within. It requires a mindset shift, a willingness to look inward, and a commitment to heal the internal world of the true meaning of death.
Experiencing grief gives you a profound awareness of life’s fleeting nature. It’s a stark reminder that nothing is guaranteed, and this realization can be a powerful motivator. Often, fear holds us back from pursuing our goals or stepping outside the boundaries of what’s considered “normal” or “right.” But when you lose someone, it puts everything into perspective—suddenly, what truly matters to you becomes crystal clear. You begin to understand that the life you’re living could be taken from you at any moment, so why not make it a life you love
Grief can help you break free from the programming that tells you what you should be doing, pushing you to embrace what you genuinely want for yourself. By harnessing the hidden power of grief, you can live a life that, when your time comes, you’ll be proud of—knowing that you followed your path and did what was best for you. This is true power: living authentically, on your terms, despite the opinions or expectations of others.
Reframe “Death”
Try to reframe what death means to you. Religious conditioning can shape your view of the afterlife, but it’s important to remember that everyone is different, with their own unique beliefs, all walking the same earth and breathing in the same air. At Internal, we emphasize the importance of living a life that’s authentic to you. To do that, you need to create a belief system that aligns with how you want to live your life. This is entirely up to you—no one else should dictate it. While someone else’s beliefs about what happens after death may differ from what you were taught growing up, what truly matters is finding what resonates with you. Choose the beliefs that positively impact how you live your life. The answer lies within you, so take the time to search for it and make it your own. When you rewire this meaning, you then can break free from the chains of your conditioning and choose to live differently, no longer chained down by the fears you once carried.
Live Authentically In The NOW!
When you’ve experienced a great loss you tune into the fact that nothing you have in life will forever be yours. Despite being a billionaire, you will die with just you. All the prized possessions, designer bags, and jewelry will not come with you. It is the memories, the experiences, and the people who have impacted your life that leave with you onto the next stage.
The present moment is the most valuable thing you have. It’s where life truly happens, where you can find peace and clarity. When you dwell on the past, you can fall into a cycle of regret and sadness, which often leads to depression. And, when you focus too much on the future, it can create anxiety, as you worry about what might happen. But in the present moment, you’re free. The only time you truly have is now, so why waste it on things that don’t matter to you?
By being intentional with your time and focusing on what’s important, you begin to see how precious every moment is. The hidden power of grief can help you reassess what truly matters in your life. It reminds you that tomorrow is not promised, so start living today. Pursue what you love, embrace what brings you joy, and let go of what doesn’t serve you.
When your time comes to say goodbye, you want to do it with pride, not regret. So make the choice now to live a life you’re proud of, a life that reflects your true self and your deepest desires. Don’t wait—start living authentically today, because this moment, right now, is the only one that’s guaranteed.
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